Getting married is a huge step at any stage of your life. There isn’t a time limit or preparation that can prepare you for another person. You either can see yourself with that person for the rest of your life or you can’t. The concept is quite simple. Some people may discover the answer sooner than later but no need to criticize that couple for coming into that realization at a young age. The most common myth is that you have to find yourself before you tie the knot. This myth is hilarious because it usually comes from the same people that would like someone to build with and to learn from.
So, how long does it take for you to find yourself?
As if you are not evolving day by day…
I had to learn that marriage does not come with a timeframe the day I said I do. I remember the rush of excitement like butterflies everywhere. My hands was clammy from sweat, my face was aching because I couldn’t stop smiling. But most of all my heart was filled with joy because the man I loved wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He was 23 at the time and I was 24 but somehow our age was never a deciding factor on our love or commitment for one another. However, when we came home the backlash was haunting. Yes, we had positive feedback but the “Why so soon?” and the “What’s the rush?” began drowning out the congratulations. Especially when it came from people we loved.
That night I felt hurt and confused. I didn’t understand why some people didn’t accept our happiness. My husband sat next to me and explained “I married you because I love you and God told me you are my wife. If God told me that who else approval would we need.” At that moment I knew that no timeline would change our love and no outside force can speak upon my life…..at any moment of my life.
Getting married is a commitment between you and the person you plan on spending the rest of your life with. Make every moment with that person count rather it’s at the age 19 or 75. Love is Love ❤
He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.